Money spent on a wedding should be used for something more useful such as a down payment on a home. amirite?

This is like the most popular opinion on unpopular opinion.

by Caitlyndaughert 1 week ago

"Cancer isn't very neat"

by Casimerdicki 1 week ago

"It's uncomfortable to be engulfed in flames"

by No_Ladder 1 week ago

The competition for that spot is fierce

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Have you ever been to an Italian wedding? The ROI is amazing

by Vgreenfelder 1 week ago

Pls explain. Do you mean cash gifts?

by keira97 1 week ago

You really think this is an unpopular opinion?

by bbeahan 1 week ago

Not everything in life is about utility. Celebrating something with family and friends is valid.

by pearline78 1 week ago

umm, talk about a strawman. you can celebrate with your family without spending 20k

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Yeah you can celebrate with your family around a dumpster fire under a bridge in Baltimore if you'd like. Some people want to have a blowout day to mark the joining of two families and the beginning of the rest of their lives together.

by Simple_Hand_5597 1 week ago

But why? When so many marriages end in divorce, it seems like a gross waste of resources , not to mention money. Too often, the marriage is not for the rest of their lives, it is for the rest of their patience with one another.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I've never heard of anybody pissing that much money away but I think it's just asinine to say that you shouldn't celebrate because some people have divorces. That's like saying you aren't going to celebrate your birthday because some people die young, or you aren't going to celebrate Halloween because not everybody likes candy, or you won't have Thanksgiving because some people are vegetarian.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

So commit to not getting divorced. Be there for your spouse, make compromises, be forgiving, show them that you love them in little ways every day and in big ways when it matters. Part of the reason divorce is so prevalent is because people view it as a rip cord they can pull at any time for any reason. I mean that's true - you do have the right to do that. But if divorce is already at the back of your mind before you're even married you're setting yourself up for failure. Don't let the possibility of divorce dissuade you from getting married and starting a family with someone. Something bad can always happen no matter what you do. If you spend your whole life trying to prevent anything bad from happening, you will fail because it's unavoidable, but you will also miss out on a lot of the more beautiful things.

by Simple_Hand_5597 1 week ago

Eh, almost every wedding I've been to, spending over $30k, are by people who already owns a house (or at least paying mortgage on one). And those without a well paying job, tend to spend less than $10k on their wedding. People are generally pretty sensible.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

its a once in a lifetime event. you will only experience your own wedding once unles youre one of those people

by Moist-Sheepherder341 1 week ago

Yes! And tbh, it is indeed the best day of your life. My husband and I would not chabge a thing about it.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Best day of your life? Really? We married in a 15 guest ceremony and spent around 3K € for the whole thing... It was a great party, we wouldn't change anything and would have done the same again if we had to... but the best day of our lives... no way... nothing comes even close to the day we got our child...

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Well, we apparently have a very different cost / reward appetite

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Well, yeah. The reward does not mean anything when I am talking about if something was a good day. I am never going to say that the feeling of being tortured can be part of a good day for me, definitely not when I have had a wedding way celebrating and eating and dancing with everyone I love. One day was all happiness, the other was maybe 1 hour of happiness.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Are you the husband or the wife?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Husband... and before you throw in your "you're weren't the one going through labour", we agree upon this one being the best day of our lives with my wife...

by Anonymous 1 week ago

it id not how much money you spend on people who most of them don't care that define the best day of your life..unless you are one of those women

by Anonymous 1 week ago

never said its the best day of your life. i said it is a unique event that is only experienced once in your life. i also never said you need a huge wedding full of uncles youve never met before. strawman

by Moist-Sheepherder341 1 week ago

Why do you assume most people don't care? How often are you going to weddings of people you don't care about?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Studies show that the more people you invite to the wedding, the higher your odds of avoiding divorce. Meanwhile, the more you spend on the wedding increases the odds of divorce. Invite everyone you know and be cheap about it.

by leonor28 1 week ago

I can kind of see the logic there. Like if you spend an ungodly amount on the wedding, there's a chance you're more interested in getting married and being the star of the day than your actual spouse to be.

by CaregiverKlutzy 1 week ago

Right!? I think total my wedding cost less than $1400, paid for by my in laws. That was just on fabric and materials for decor that can be repurposed as well as food. Everything was all accomplished by a building that was free to use and services from family members to help decorate and make food and sew stuff. I think my wife spent a total of $200 on her dress including on alterations. I spent like $70 on a black cowboy hat and $25 on my vest and bowtie.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It's so stupid.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Higher wedding costs are associated with higher divorce rates. Definitely overly materialistic imo.

by Fair_Field 1 week ago

Very materialistic

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Living together before marriage is also associated with higher divorce rates, and yet it's encouraged

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I do think OP means going beyond your means into debt you need years to pay off... It's common in some societies...

by Anonymous 1 week ago

In their last paragraph OP mentions that even 3-5k could be "put to better use". Absolutely agree with not having a wedding beyond one's means.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I live in LA so the 30k I am spending on my wedding is nowhere near close enough to afford a house and even if I had a down payment I can't afford an LA mortgage, also apparently 30k is cheap for an LA wedding I've heard 😅. We also don't want kids and love experiences over things and love hosting(much smaller) parties already so why not. It's a once in a lifetime experience and the only debt we have is about 10k in student loans that will be paid off by the end of next year either way. However I don't blame people at all for not wanting to spend this much money on a wedding it's expensive and I still am struggling with the fact we are spending this much to be honest. All that matters though is getting to be with your favorite person for forever. I just want to enjoy the fun traditions life has to offer in the short amount of time I am alive.❤️

by Spare_Purple7723 1 week ago

Wife and I got married w 6 people. Then spent 5k on a reception months later w family and friends at a local place. Great times and didn't break the budget

by Raoulboyer 1 week ago

While I agree, I'm gonna assume you're rich enough for a down payment as well if your family is dropping 50k on a wedding.

by Ill_Ebb_1634 1 week ago

Bold assumption

by Fair_Field 1 week ago

Cultural pressure is the only reason it's not

by ReasonableBread 1 week ago

The worst way to start a marriage is with a wedding

by Anonymous 1 week ago

People should be able to afford a decent home and celebrating a wedding.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I loved my wedding and I'm so glad that we did it. _^ it was definitely one of the best days of my life.

by ColdCryptographer 1 week ago

Pissing money away bad, saving money good. Damn bro how do you go through life with such paradigm shifting unpopular opinions.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Definitely, especially since 50%+ end in divorce lol

by thereseprice 1 week ago

I would need $200K for a down payment on a house- my wedding didn't cost anywhere near that. If you live somewhere where these numbers are closer together purchasing a house makes more sense.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

If I ever marry it will be a small party. 5k max.

by Which-Blueberry 1 week ago

Do what you want to celebrate your wedding; what you want and can afford. Enjoy the experience of creating memories. BUT, if you are just doing it for an Instagram reel You should really do a lot of reevaluation of what you believe to be important. Are you truly enjoying your wedding with family family and close friends or are you just throwing a big party Where you're the center of attention and some of the people that have come to your wedding really aren't there to celebrate you.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Yep I agree with you

by Anonymous 1 week ago

That's what I did and I don't regret it. I feel like nowadays people (the ones who love to show off on social media - that's probably 70% of people these days!) throw big weddings to show off online and to people they don't like so they can make them jealous. Don't get me wrong there's probably people who just want to have a good time and throw a night to remember….. I just think it doesn't have to cost more than 10k (I spent about £1000!)

by Anonymous 1 week ago

That's what we did. We had an intimate wedding with immediate family it was so fun and perfect!

by Anonymous 1 week ago

My first wife will always be money not honey. I'm not religious , no need to marry other than to register it.

by cartwrightlaury 1 week ago

Yes, but they dont get it.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Exactly what a poor person would suggest.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Hey do you know males in China even have to pay a big fortune to their girlfriends otherwise girls' parents would not allow them to marry. That fortune generally costs 50,000 dollars, way more expensive than the cost of wedding itself

by Ok_Doughnut 1 week ago

It doesn't cost much even you wanna have a luxury wedding in good hotels, inviting all your friends and relatives. The wedding industry and business is well-developed so the market price is transparent. Just have a wedding according to your financial affordability.

by Ok_Doughnut 1 week ago

What we call weddings should be more like funerals. Those guys disappear from your life, as they fill up their time with all kinds of work, that comes in place of the free time they used to have for their mates. RIP. Might as well do it cheaply for everyone involved. What we call divorces, should be more like weddings: NOW they need their old buddies again and can make the time. This is the time to invite old friends to gatherings. Gifts and free help have never been more welcome too.

by Alarmed-Emergency192 1 week ago

Yap 100% agree and with 50% divorce no way .wedding were small event for the longs time. Then industrial development around it .

by Damarisoreilly 1 week ago

Here's an idea, people should spend there money on whatever they want 😂

by Low-Patience-8791 1 week ago

Yep agree 100%. Buddy of mine was given 10k by his grandfather to spend. He spent 2k and kept the rest. He's doing very well in life now too. Oh, and they got divorced.

by berenice64 1 week ago

In an economy where the average person can buy an entire house on 2-3 years worth of salary, weddings make sense. If you can easily afford a boat, dream house, 4 kids, 3 cars and a vacation every year it makes sense to push buying that boat out just one more year to have a big ol celebration for getting married. We don't live in that economy anymore, the tradition will die as our livelihoods continue to decay

by Anonymous 1 week ago

If you can afford it, why not. 5k to one person might be more like 30k to another. I think the issue I have with this is when people who live paycheck to paycheck suddenly go all out with money they don't have or save money they could use for car house bills etc on a wedding.

by Raleigh01 1 week ago

Why? Corporations have drilled it into the head of every person that everyone deserves a nice big wedding and if they can't provide that big dream wedding you've always wanted then it MUST be because they don't actually care about you.

by Schummwinifred 1 week ago

Ok so you do it. Let people live their lives.

by Dapper_Business601 1 week ago

Weddings are waste of money.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Meh... 65% of internet traffic is streaming and porn. The waste seems criminal, even genocidal when one considers the carbon footprint. But it makes people happy. Big weddings make people happy. Live and let live.

by InfiniteAd7366 1 week ago

100% right most people are vain, want to make an event all about them while spending upwards of 60k to do so

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Who even gets married anymore lol

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I've been to seven weddings this year. So I guess that my friend group is carrying the marriage industry.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

You have a lot of friends.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Strange..

by Anonymous 1 week ago