Publicly made marriage proposals are wrong for several reasons. amirite?

Hopefully you know the person you're proposing to very well. If she's the type to appreciate a public display then there's nothing wrong with it, but you have to know she'll like it and she'll say yes.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Well if you actually know the person you're proposing to, you should know whether they want something private or public. Small or extravagant. If they want it public and extravagant, then let them!

by Fvolkman 1 week ago

Some girls want that though, I was with a girl who wanted to be the beach, her family there, her make up done, pictures etc… I wouldn't say it wrong but if you're asking someone to marry you then the conversation should've already been had on how. Some women have dreamed about their wedding since childhood

by Sylvanbartell 1 week ago

But… what is the point of asking if you've already talked about it and know the answer is yes? It's all just for show?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Everyone's relationship is different but yeah pretty much. Some people go ring shopping together before the proposing.

by Sylvanbartell 1 week ago

I'm aware of people going talking about it and going ring shopping, I just never assumed those same people would also fake a spontaneous proposal.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Spontaneous doesn't make it fake.

by Brendan61 1 week ago

lol, that's not what I said. I said they are faking a spontaneous event. Not that being spontaneous is fake.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

How are they faking it?

by Brendan61 1 week ago

What do you mean?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Speaking from experience...there's a difference between the practical discussion of and agreement to marriage. My partner and I had a very practical talk about it and agreed we were on the same page. We also agreed that we did indeed want a proper proposal, because sitting down at the kitchen table and laying out facts over bills is not exactly romantic for us. The 'proposal' is all about emotion and romance and celebrating our decision.

by Unlucky_Lobster_972 1 week ago

Just because she knows you're proposing doesn't mean she knows when. And it's not exactly faking it when the emotions are real.

by Sylvanbartell 1 week ago

Dude, you said she wanted her parents there and her makeup done beforehand. How would she not know it's happening? It's a drama show, and that is fine if that's what you want, I'm not attacking it.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

While I'm not with her anymore, I did think about it. I would act like I'm taking her on a normal date so she can get ready and do her make up, I live in California so dates by the beach are common. I would pick a beach with a pier so her family could hide in the background while I propose on the beach. There are ways of doing it you just have to put the efforts in.

by Sylvanbartell 1 week ago

Okay. That made way more sense for my stupid little brain. I was thinking you guys set a date, time and location for it all to go down and then would pretend like you all had no idea or something.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

The person I was responding to was talking about having the actual proposal as preplanned ceremony, even with family members. Not what you are talking about.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I think it's up to the people involved. If the proposer knows that the proposee will say yes and they have the permission of the organizers of the event, there's no problem. But proposing to someone in, say, the middle of a restaurant is pretty tacky.

by Dtorp 1 week ago

There are plenty of people out there who want the big public proposal so saying they are "wrong" is a severe over reach lol

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I know it not a popular viewpoint

by Anonymous 1 week ago

No man or woman should propose unless they knows what the answer will be. Like...there should have been a couple (minimum) discussions between them about getting married. I agree about the public proposal, but I don't get off on attention from strangers.

by Initial-Survey 1 week ago

I am living in the Netherlands and I really don't get all this fuzz about getting married in the US. Here we don't have any advantage in tax by getting married.

by Tillmanangeline 1 week ago

The rule is the proposal should be a surprise, the engagement shouldn't be. Included in that is talking about types of proposals. I made it very clear I don't want a public proposal. My sister didn't mind and her husband proposed at dinner in a restaurant. It depends on the person.

by Consistent-Degree 1 week ago

Agree to get married. Let her choose the ring. Buy it and hold onto it At some point propose If you are winging everything till you propose you're doing it wrong. If she chooses the ring she's already said yes.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I don't get to tell another couple what is best for them or what popping the question should look like.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Not only are they exhibitionist, but they are also coercive. And, truthfully, why does everything have to be a production?

by kristofferhagen 1 week ago

Not saying all, but a lot of proposals in restaurants are faked just to try and get a free meal or dessert.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

At a wedding... "the decision to marry is between two people and not for a crowd to watch." I just wanted to note. the irony.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Exactly right.

by Enough_Suggestion_25 1 week ago

Not unpopular at all. The majority of people agree with this

by Anonymous 1 week ago

100% agree

by Ok-Combination2599 1 week ago

YES it's honestly kinda manipulative whether the person proposing meant it to be or not

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Usually proposals are (or should he) agreed upon. It all depends on the person.

by Minute_Enthusiasm 1 week ago

I agree, it should be intimate and private.

by Forsaken_Treacle 1 week ago